The heart-expansion project

You know that part in “How the Grinch Stole Christmas” where the Grinch’s heart, which is originally two sizes too small, grows three sizes, and everything changes? That happened to our hearts this weekend.

Our hearts didn’t seem small to us before–they were your normal, average-sized vessels. But now that we’ve brought home four baby goats, our hearts feel much bigger than they were and that has changed our lives. My son Adrian quickly decided that he didn’t want to go to school anymore, and although I find it challenging to write with a baby goat asleep on my lap, I’d rather type slowly and inefficiently than forgo the experience. We are virtually incapacitated by our love for these little animals.

Adrian with Pandora, Rhea, and Pan

That has me thinking. Isn’t it in everyone’s best interest to increase our capacity for love? Won’t the compassion my son gains from this experience enable him to engage more compassionately with all living things? Won’t his ability to intuit these babies’ unspoken needs make him more sensitive to the needs of others? Won’t his willingness to take responsibility for their physical well-being make him more willing to engage in the work that makes any relationship thrive?

My hunch is that the answer to all of these questions is, “Yes.” As Adrian’s mother and “childhood designer,” I sometimes imagine who I want Adrian to be when he grows up, and then reverse-engineer experiences that I think will lead to that result. Our little farm is one of those experiences.

Loving (platonic)

Kris Wiltse’s illustrations for the “Loving” card from the Mixed Emotions card deck.

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About petramartin

Petra Martin is the creator of the Mixed Emotions card deck, a tool that helps people put their feelings into words, and then use that information to make decisions, resolve conflicts, and solve problems. Petra also owns the Whidbey Island Writer's Refuge, a place where those who create can get away and focus on their work.
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One Response to The heart-expansion project

  1. Pingback: Building from the heart « Emotions: the GPS for life’s journey

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